“We were on the beach in Barbados over Christmas,” he says.
“Simon was playing with his son, I was looking at wedding venues, and we just started laughing at ourselves. ” Certainly not me, based on my impressions of him when we last spoke a couple of years ago, and I got somebody chippy, defensive, definitely feeling undervalued in the world.
Of course I fancied her, but it just didn’t seem appropriate.” Kate’s former fiance had died suddenly, around the same time that Mc Kenna’s father Bill died a few years ago, and neither of them were in a good place, he recalls. I was on an endless pleasure quest when it came to relationships, but now I’ve found something that’s fantastic.” He took a little time off in October to take her on a romantic weekend along California’s Pacific Coast Highway, recalling how he went down on one knee to pop the question.
“Then one night, Kate and I had a couple of glasses of red wine and I said to her: ‘Tell me something about you that I don’t know’, and she said: ‘I love you’. The wedding will take place this year in Buckinghamshire.
, introducing ‘Havening Techniques’ which include lateral eye movement and rubbing your hands up and down your arms, in a sort of maternal hug.
They’re designed to unblock trauma and stress from the past and promote positive thinking.
People always say to me, ‘you don’t have any problems’ but I don’t have a perfect life.“I have problems just like everybody else.
“I’ve always really liked Kate, but she’s my assistant. She understands me very well and I find that liberating.
He has even fitted some willing readers with a "hypnotic gastric band". You will give better, more impactful presentations. Above all, you will be more free to express your own values and live a more personally rewarding life." Sounds good. "I'm told I am," says Mc Kenna, with no hint of a pause. And other people have told me that, which is a great compliment. Because as a child, I didn't feel that charismatic." Do many children go around feeling charismatic?
His 17th book, Instant Influence and Charisma, published this month, contains a system to unlock the "glowing human energy" that is charisma. Never mind, there is definitely something about Mc Kenna the grown-up. He is also a celebrity favourite, having helped David Walliams to swim the channel, Sophie Dahl to lose weight and Ellen Degeneres to stop smoking.
The technique requires the person to recall a traumatic event and the negative emotions it triggers.
This is followed by conjuring up a more pleasant image such as lying on a sunny beach and a series of actions which include repeatedly tapping the collarbone, opening and closing the eyes and stroking the upper arms.