I'd just gotten out of a relationship that ended with an explosive break-up that left me emotionally bruised, needy, and fragile. We decided we would create our own world, that we were all we needed.He'd just received a discharge from the military and left an epic ordeal behind in the Pacific Northwest, one that required his immediate departure from a very bad, very violent scene. We fell into a vacuum, never staying apart for long and feeling like we were exquisitely connected.In its most narrow definition, it requires one person to be physically or psychologically addicted, such as to heroin, and the second person to be psychologically dependent on that behavior.According to disability studies specialist Lennard J.What could be more romantic than being together every day, every night?My first marriage was a nine year exercise in co-dependence. We dove head first into a relationship built on controlling one another and indulging a neediness that knew no bounds.
My first husband and I got married after being friends for years and dating for just three months. I was 10 days past my 21st birthday,;he was only 20.Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another.It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship.Codependency is a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person's drug addiction, alcoholism, gambling addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement.Given its grassroots origin, the precise definition of codependency varies based on the source but can be generally characterized as a subclinical and situational or episodic behavior similar to that of dependent personality disorder.