I didn’t have any fantastic or horrible experiences, and that what I’m about to say is a massive generalization (and particularly directed at Basque Country, not all of Spain).And also: Tinder sucks, drains your battery, is addicting, will consume all subsequent conversations with your single girlfriends, makes you realize the world is full of creeps, and you’ll judge yourself for using it—but it does help you meet people in a place that’s not known for its hug-giving locals. So after a very minimal study of dating in Spain, here are 5 common practices that American girls should—and must, to be successful—keep an open mind about when chatting up Spanish, and particularly Basque, hunks.Every drink or tapa bought was offered around before the buyer had any.It’s important to remember to offer, because even if the drink is theirs and they only offered a taste if you don’t hand it back to them they won’t take it from you.The first and most important part of dating a Spaniard is meeting their family.Meeting the family is a big deal in most cultures, but even more so in Spain, and it can happen pretty soon into the relationship.Plus, I justify it with the fact that if Basques truly are so hard to meet, then the ones who sign up for Tinder are merely the 1% of the population that are extroverts, not total creeps.While Tinder has not led me to lifelong love, it has opened my eyes to several hurdles that cross-cultural dating in Spain and/or full-on relationships could present.
If they too swiped right for you, you can initiate a chat, with such engaging first lines as “Hey! ” It has a reputation as a hook-up app, though many people (yours truly) really do use it with the intention of dating and meeting people. It took several months of convincing by friends, along with one foolproof national study of Basques as the anti-flirt, for me to download it.If he´s into you then you can expect him to ask you to meet his mum, cousins and uncle Jose pretty quickly.Spanish men typically are still living at home until well into their 30s so his mum is likely to be the queen of his world (who irons his pants and gives him a Tupperware to take to the office).Three weeks into dating my boyfriend, I still remember when he timidly asked me if I would like to meet his sister and niece.I was surprised at how soon he asked, but it was clearly very important to him.