I have been in a relationship for 8 months with my partner(? He has 'insight' into his illness & takes his prescribed meds, I thought he was maybe just a little shy & eccentric when we first met, but early on in the relationship he told me about much separate from the rest of his life.
He's only had one girlfriend apart from me, who he met whilst sectioned, she committed suicide.
"We took a walk in a park, and it was toward the end of summer -- a gorgeous, beautiful day. and he said he had had a 'schizophrenic break.'" For some couples, that might have been the end.
Frese went to the library and read up on schizophrenia.
He doesn't have a great deal of empathy, I don't ever expect support if I'm going through a hard time, he just stays away (we don't live together).
We speak about his illness, I've asked him what it's like to see the world through his perspective, & what it feels like for him, but don't push him to talk about anything he doesn't want to- for instance, he's reluctant to tell me about the circumstances under which he was first sectioned/institutionalised, so I don't push. I think you have pointed out what I was thinking anyway.
Sorry about the long post, but this is the first time I've been able to ask these questions, & am very confused about what to do regarding the relationship. I have bipolar, but my mother had paranoid schizophrenia. The girl complained that her mother showed her no affection. I've been involved with a guy with mild schizophrenia with borderline features for 3 years now.
That’s a pretty hefty chunk of the dating pool, not to mention the unreported cases and the probable addition of cases since that report was published.
Mental health conditions come in far too many forms—depression, suicidal tendencies, anxiety, bipolar disorder, OCD, substance abuse, addiction, eating disorders, schizophrenia, personality disorders, autism and Asperger’s, those that don’t immediately come to mind and so many layers within each of those conditions—to try to come up with a one-size fits all approach for how to deal with dating someone who is mentally ill.
You spend the earlier parts of your relationship trying to “read” the other person; trying to make sure you’re both on the same page.
Then, once you’ve passed that phase, it’s on to really getting to know the other person.