I am 22 years old and keep getting into the same argument with my parents (since I started dating), because despite the fact that I have a serious boyfriend, they encourage me to find a Jewish guy.
They act as though I don’t have a “real” boyfriend.
In high school, this decision proved to be mostly moot. I tried not to follow up on them at first, but I was frustrated and lonely and had finite willpower.
After one date, though, I would beat myself up mentally for breaking my rule, and I’d avoid making second dates.
I felt the pressure: The future of my people was at stake! The school was arty, musical, nerdy, and had a substantial Jewish population. Even though I no longer felt outside the norm, I still had trouble getting dates … Every Jewish woman I asked out on a date rejected me.
I resolved that I would only go out with Jewish girls. I attributed this to the fact that I was kind of nerdy: My extra-curricular activities included musical theater, video games, and Dungeons & Dragons, not exactly the types of things that made a guy popular with the ladies. I had numerous opportunities, on the other hand, to date non-Jewish women.
So spend some time thinking about how important your Jewish identity is to you.
Them that no one else would deem to be best and then take the plunge before.
If you do, then you should date only Jews, so that you will marry a Jew.
Lets face it: It’s much more common for mixed-faith families to gravitate toward the predominant culture (i.e.
Unlike me, she hadn’t dreamed of meeting someone Jewish and having a Jewish wedding.
I was only able to relax around non-Jewish women, because I didn’t feel the same pressure; that’s how I met, and fell in love with, my wife.