Start with Huma Abedin, who is still married to the disgraced former congressman Anthony Weiner whose pornographic selfies and dalliances with women online were tabloid fodder for months last year, and go all the way back to the marital travails of Abedin’s former boss, Hillary Clinton. Smart women with high-profile careers are called hypocrites, traitors to the sisterhood, or at very least deluded because of their loyalty to men who are not good to women and for putting their own careers at risk as a result.The latest in this line is Lis Smith, a talented political strategist who ran the Obama campaign’s rapid response team and was most recently New York Mayor Bill de Blasio’s top campaign spokesperson.Not only will you read as more desperate, but you’ll also start to accept more bad behaviour than you should just to avoid being single.Realizing being alone is way better than being with someone unworthy will be a huge victory for you. If you’re constantly excusing sh*tty behavior from a man, you’ll never find one who doesn’t need excuses made for him.Almost everyone has that ex they stayed with for too long, that one who never listened or could never commit, but still had some allure. Sex differences in short-term mate preferences and behavioral mimicry: a semi-naturalistic experiment. In one study, women who were ovulating (meaning they were at their peak fertility) looked at fake online dating profiles of different men, and were much more likely to prefer confident studs over more average-looking guys. Behavioural Science Institute, Radboud University Nijmegen. They typically seek someone kind and intelligent, emotionally and financially stable, and in it for the long haul .Turns out biology might be to blame for our bad choices. Behavioural Science Institute, Radboud University Nijmegen. Women even wanted the hotties who were designed to seem unreliable, financially unstable, or commitment-phobic Sex differences in short-term mate preferences and behavioral mimicry: a semi-naturalistic experiment. (These findings are relevant for heterosexual and same-sex couples.)So how does all this apply to our current dating lives?
Realize your worth and set your bar too high for jerks to jump over. Even though a**holes are usually good liars, there are always at least a few subtle signs indicating that they’re bad news.
You keep saying you want a nice, emotionally understanding guy and yet somehow, you always end up in the arms of a player.
You tell yourself you're looking for someone good for you and yet, you always seem to choose someone who's all wrong for you. Getting played by a supposed Prince Charming is almost a rite of passage.
The stereotype that men think with their reproductive parts may be a generalization, but it also hints at an answer. But while “jerks” might be good for a few dates or even the occasional tryst, research suggests they don’t typically make the cut as spouses.
As for guys who date selfish, unreliable, or emotionally immature women? So it’s possible that people are more likely to prefer a good-looking heartbreaker over a reliable mate because they’re just not that concerned about marriage and babies at this stage of life.