I can’t think of many good reasons why families can’t limit teens to one major sport/extra-curricular activity per season. Maybe parents don’t have any limits of boundaries within their own life, so they don’t know how to communicate the value of these to their teen.
Not only will a frenetic schedule slowly grind down your entire family of time, you’ll be teaching your teen that “the good life” is a hyper-active one. We are all tempted to think that loving our kids means doing all we can to ensure they have all the opportunities and things we didn’t have growing up. It leads to an enormous amount of self-important, petty, and ungrateful kids. Parents need to recognize they’re doing their teens a disservice by spoiling them in either of these ways. Maybe it’s because they don’t want to, because their own self-esteem is too tied up in their child’s perception of them, and they couldn’t handle having their teen get angry at them for actually trying to parent.
While the Bible doesn’t speak directly to dating, it has a lot to say about purity, guarding your heart and trusting God with your future.
Setting healthy emotional and physical boundaries can be the difference between a : Keeping trusted friends in the loop lets others keep you accountable and gives you a clear-headed perspective from people that aren’t seeing him through rose-colored glasses.
And so I think the church really serves and helps Christian singles consider marriage and consider dating.
Within the covenant community of faith, there should be those around a person that can speak of their reputation and whether they are serious about growing in the Lord and putting sin to death in their life. Is there seriousness in this person to grow in their relationship and understanding with the Lord?
Going for walks together, grabbing a coffee in order to “catch up,” going to the movies together, etc., all all simple investments that teens secretly want and look forward to.
When you don’t carve out time to spend with your teen, you’re communicating that you’re not interested in them, and they internalize that message, consciously or unconsciously. Letting your teen’s activities take top priority for your family.
Despite the fact that teens are transitioning into more independence and often carry a “I don’t need/want you around” attitude, they are longing for the securing and grounding that comes from consistent quality time.
But in a day when so much nominalism passes for authentic maturity, give us a few simple marks of spiritual growth that a man or woman should be looking for in a potential spouse.
I think what you are looking for is seriousness about growth in the person’s faith.
on ice cream, we probably all need to have a DTR (Define the Relationship) on the topic.
For some it’s a social convention and for others it’s something to “kiss goodbye.” So what’s a godly girl to do? Or has God given us guidelines for dating relationships that can keep us somewhere between living in heartbreak and living in a convent?