As a senior woman, my online dating experience has been abysmal. The second man seemed interesting, and we met for coffee, but he seemed fascinated by the whole online dating thing and viewed it as a great social experiment. He didn’t seem very interested in me and the actual date, which was really disappointing.
I have tried it three times in all, each separated by a year or so. After talking a bit about our divorces, he said, “Well, this has been nice, but can we talk dirty next time? He asked me one question after another, but none of them were get-to-know-you date questions.
We are allowed to feel and express our feelings, and doing so speeds our recovery.
However, we don’t want to bring these feelings into our next relationship or dating experience.
Not filling it out gives off the perception that you don’t care much about actually trying to meet someone, or that you are a boring person who doesn’t have much to say.
Our tolerance for love is established early in our lives and is based on our unique childhood experiences.
Most of us enter a good relationship in a good place.
Early on, we feel great, because we feel valued and seen. Yet, this blissful process of caring so deeply for someone else is also an invitation to care more deeply about our lives, which is scary.
This will be covered in one of the later tips, but I will address it here briefly.
If all you have in your About Me section is just the words “Message me to find out more,” don’t complain if you get a generic “How are you doing? How can someone begin to tailor an awesome question/greeting that is specific to you if they don’t know anything about you? In real life, the connections that often lead to relationships are through school, work, shared interests or mutual friends.