Being a Supportive Girlfriend Developing the Relationship Taking Care of Yourself Community Q&A Dating a musician, regardless of gender, is not always easy.
In fact, the life of a musician can make relationships hard.
I’m also based in New York City, which makes dating even harder.
But whether you’re a male or female in the music industry, there are various complexities that can make romance extremely challenging. • Musicians/Artists get panties (or bras, or boxer shorts) thrown at them.
You'll be dropped at a moment's notice when his guitarist is 'feeling meh', or his bassist's gerbil died…or he's been offered a plus one to a gig where he HATES the band but there might be a schmoozable contact there. Your desire to be in bed before 1am on a schoolnight will make you feel squarer than Spongebob and you can forget any notion that sex will happen within the confines of when "The Man" dictates you should have it.3. Ok so consciously-uncoupling's got Gwynnie written all over it but when quizzed about their split, Chris Martin essentially bemoaned his inability to extract enjoyment from what was otherwise a great relationship because of "this". The self-loathing that accompanies his 'gift' is part of the fabric of his being and as such, no singular experience is lived outside its realms. Your trip to Glastonbury made him gag at the thought of meaningless escapism for average people to get off their tits and pretend they're bohemian for a week. be prepared to embrace your new life as the NOT-cool one.7. He simply cannot fathom why you'd willingly pay upwards of £300 to sit on a beach elsewhere as that would be passing up opportunities to hang out in artisan coffee shops and dinge-bars. His hand-to-mouth existence means the prospect of planning anything beyond the next three hours makes his palms sweat.
If you complain about this, you're massively selfish, FYI. "", presumably, being the relentless torture that inflicts musicians on an epidemic scale. His existential crisis is the Camilla to your Charles and Diana. His neuroticism puts him at the centre of any number of imagined scenarios in which he's letting you down or breaking your heart or HEY WHAT A GREAT IDEA FOR A SONG!
They’re , and the only things more unstable than their moods are their career prospects.But herein lies the crux of the matter: take away his "burden" and you've effectively stripped him of his raison d'être.4. People will hit on them after shows and you will usually be there watching it happen. Before I even get into it, let me properly preface this with some important context. To every non-musician reading this, you’re just an outsider looking in. Here are some of the most common false truths about musicians when it comes to dating, especially for up-and-coming musicians: • Musicians/Artists get TONS of gorgeous women falling for them. Now I’ll be honest, I have my fair share of female supporters, but nothing comes close to an official ‘groupie’.• Musicians/Artists regularly get groupies after all their shows. And to every dude dreaming of becoming a rock star just for the chicks, I may have just shattered your hopes and dreams.